Secondary School! (๐Ÿด๓ ง๓ ข๓ ฅ๓ ฎ๓ ง๓ ฟ)

Eeek! With just over a week to go before we find out our children’s places….

Choosing a child’s secondary school is difficult, there’s good and bad in every school and so much depends on the child’s character themselves.

Our son is a bright lad and could’ve taken an entrance exam to a higher academic school, however, HE chose not to and he didn’t want to travel the distance either, we were not going to force this. Many friends and family questioned why we didn’t ‘make him just try’. Our priority as parents is to ensure our children’s happiness, if we are enforcing such big decisions at this age, making them take exams or go to church (whatever they need to get into these schools) etc, will they end up resenting US for it if they struggle? or if they’re bullied? as I said there is good and bad in every school whatever their academic status, exam results or OFSTED, and their resentment consequently could result in negative behaviours, communication and relationship breakdowns.

First and foremost children need to be happy, and parents need to guide and advise them, no pressure needed.

I cannot emphasis enough the importance of visiting all potential schools, even if you’re not interested in one, which you may be allocated because it’s your nearest, the feel of a school is more powerful than any rumours that surround it! Visit it anyway!

Donโ€™t just visit on their open evenings when staff and students are ready for you, but during the school day too, phone up and book an appointment, then you can not just see it in action, but feel it too!

Ensure your child visits the school with you, it’s no good them sitting at home, it’s them that’s got to feel it, it’s them that’s got to be there for the rest of their education. They need to be happy with the school. Them not visiting the school, could cause greater anxieties later on. Preparation and discussion are the key!

The only 2 pieces of advice I gave my son when we were looking round were:

1- Don’t just choose a school because your friends are going there. (you can always keep in touch with them)

2- Really get a feeling from the school & visualise yourself being there.

I was so proud of how my son embraced the visits, his own little pros and cons, what he liked and what he didn’t like. He read through the perspectus’ and initiated many conversations and questions with the teachers even the head teacher, despite his nerves, he came across confident.

He was 100% involved in this decision making, of course he’s still nervous for next week (finding out) and most definitely for September! But I’m confident that his decision making will provide him with greater self esteem, particularly in those early days!!

This, gets me to my initial reason for writing this blog. School uniform and the expense! Most local uniform is generic, black trousers, white shirts etc. So, since changing my job, financially things are different, I’m having to think more about the pennies and I was looking at ways to spread the cost.

As the basics are generic I compared prices of our local shops and was quite suprised at the findings….

Next is almost double the cost!!! Why?? If you know please tell me, because personally I wouldn’t have said the quality is any better???

The costs are based on age 12-13yrs. Most of TU was out of stock and Tesco-couldn’t find an on-line range.

Anyway, I thought I’d share, it may be useful to you or maybe you have other tips of ways to spread the cost. Please share!

Good luck to fellow parents in this waiting game, I sincerely hope you get your child’s desired school.

And remember, happiness and self-esteem go hand in hand. Our children’s happiness is what counts!

Harry Potter-the understair cupboard

My boy used to read Harry Potter, but wasn’t really into it for long, now it’s hitting our household 2nd time around faster than you can say Accio …..

My daughter is about to turn 7 and has suggested to start reading Harry Potter together, but she’s a bit nervous incase it’s too scary. I think she’ll actually be ok with it, we shall see, any thoughts gratfully received! Is she too young??? What age did your children start reading it?

We started The Philosopher’s Stone just 2 days ago, with a view that if she doesn’t like it, we’ll stop but oh my she’s loving it, embracing it (only on page 77)! To the point our house is being magically transformed, we no longer have shoes in our understair cupboard, but a bedroom, her bedroom.

Simple props, such as this sign, takes seconds to make, but the memories last a lifetime.
A few fairy lights, spells on the wall. An obligatory owl!
A Spell book-just a book covered in brown paper.
A beanbag for comfort

They both slept in the understair cupboard last night and this morning recieved a few letters…

I’m not sure how long this Harry Potter phase will last, just enjoying the moment, making memories.

Feel free to share your Harry Potter ideas and activities.

Storm Dennis

The storm is rapidly approaching, what’s everyone up to?

The perfect weather for getting your children’s imaginations going…..

Get out the crafts or playdough, bake together or maybe a puppet show, or just let them lead the way…………

…..I was busy doing mum-stuff, when my daughter said ‘mum, come and visit my animal sanctuary’, her bedroom had been taken over by all her stuffed animals

They were everywhere! I replied ‘I can’t visit without a ticket and I don’t know where it is-you may need some signs’ and so she did, spent all morning together designing posters and tickets for the sanctuary.

I paid 50p for my ticket, which in turn promoted money and maths descussion, how much change? Etc.

Come lunch time, I just made my daughter a lunch suitable for her animals too, she ate the lot ๐Ÿ˜Š, or maybe it was her furry friends ๐Ÿค”

Sometimes mum-stuff doesn’t matter, but quality time with our children does!

Spend your storm Dennis time wisely, create your own storm of imaginitive play!

kind hands, kind words, kind heart

Some think itโ€™s over commercialised, some love it!

Either way itโ€™s a great day, to share love with our friends and family, and the perfect opportunity to teach our children to be kind.

I put love heart post-it on the children’s bedroom door, with things I love about them.

I decorated the table and made heart shaped pancakes for breakfast with lots of special toppings.

My daughter made a valentines card out of recycled materials….

And she wanted to gift all her class with a pack of love hearts so she wrote in the card saying ‘kind hands, kind words, kind hearts’ A strong message for everone! ๐Ÿ’—